#2 Counseling log_I quit being a problem solver.

The second consultation has been completed. I didn’t think there would be much to talk about, but this hour passed quickly and there were still things left to say. Looking at this, I feel like a lot of the dust that had been building up inside me was rolling around inside me.

You must distinguish between what can be solved and what cannot be solved. I am not a problem solver. In the name of my eldest daughter and older sister, she took it upon herself to do things that no one had asked her to do, ultimately hurting me. Like everyone else in life, even if it is a family, each member has a role to play. I’ve done my fair share.

There is no need to be an emotional trash can. I will face the fact that it is not for that purpose and decide to speak clearly when such a situation arises. The key point the counselor said was to protect me. Let’s not pick up the feelings that are discarded by mom, dad, and younger brother. In the first place, I need to stop them from throwing away extremely subjective and personal trash in front of me. Because I am neither a cleaner nor a problem solver. This doesn’t mean you should be indifferent, but rather don’t try to solve things that aren’t your business.

Just as the counselor exclaimed, I worked hard and lived well, was amazing, and did everything I could as a daughter and older sister. Now I really put myself first and give myself first priority!