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3_The self-talk that was piled up.

It was an excruciatingly long March.

Spinning an infinitely despairing treadmill

I tried to find calm happiness within it.

Even he was exhausted.

Like riding a roller coaster whose route you clearly know

Even when I get excited, I feel helpless that I will soon sink again.

I fell into a dark hole.

As promised, the days are getting warmer and now

It is time to wash away the hearts that have been locked up in every nook and cranny.


-.In the past, I thought that the contradictions in life would suddenly pop out at a certain time, such as the late 20s or mid-30s. However, nonsense always accompanies us throughout our one-time life. It’s not that something is wrong somewhere, it’s just that I was born with a mess of contradictions and have managed to survive.

What can I say, accepting this is neither heartache nor resignation. It’s just a matter of gently stroking it. We can’t possibly try to get this close to ourselves throughout our lives. To calmly accept that point. Jang Ki-ha is a musician who tells these stories quite consistently.

This album started with “What did I do wrong?” and ends with “Everything.” There was a lot going on in between, and a lot of heart. It all passes. As we do so, we may finally be able to calmly look at some aspects of our lives that have been smoothened out. I completely embrace all the wrong, incoherent thoughts, words, and actions, hug them tightly, and fall asleep. And then, without incident, the day dawns, tomorrow comes, and I decide to think about it then. That’s how you become an adult.

by Cha Woo-jin, music critic

-.Humans have a need for dependence that must be satisfied. It’s a completely different issue from whether you’re independent or dependent. The basic, survival need to experience being considered the most precious person unconditionally by an important person, to be loved when you need love, to be comforted when you need comfort, and to be protected when you need protection is the dependency need. However, children who cannot satisfy this need for dependence and have to act like adults end up developing ‘pseudo-independence.’ In fact, we are dependent, but on the outside we appear to be independent.

by Oh Eun-young

-.Because each of us lives our own lives within the present time, and we all face our own tasks and problems. Although our tasks and problems may be one-time and passing, they are like our entire lives. This is because it does not provide general or didactic teachings, but is directly related to each person’s life. And these problems are not there to be ‘solved’. It is simply pain given to us, and pain exists to make things difficult for us. Pain is life, and joy and value can only be experienced through the process of pain.

by Hermann Hesse

-.I am quietly happy today.

by Blogger to Yunyeon

-.”There is no meaning!” As if I had been eagerly awaiting the moment to ask that question my whole life, my father informed me that life had no meaning. “There is no meaning. There is no God. There is no divine being watching over you or taking care of you in any way. There is no afterlife, no destiny, no plan. And don’t believe anyone who tells you there is such a thing. They are all just things people have imagined to console themselves against the horrible feeling that none of this means anything and that they themselves have no meaning. The truth is that none of this means anything, and neither do you.”

(syncopation)

“You don’t matter” seemed to fuel my father’s every step, every bite. “So live the way you like.” My father spent years riding motorcycles, drinking copious amounts of beer, and jumping into the water with his big boat whenever he could.

by Lulu Miller

-.Everyone can do this at least once without any explanation.

Words that I couldn’t say out loud in the back of my mind.

The self-talk I had piled up,

May our alone hearts become our hearts.

by Seo Ja-young Album Introduction

-.There is also research that shows that looking at cute pictures increases concentration. Professor Nitono of Japan published a paper titled The Power of kawaii. After looking at cute pictures for 90 seconds, we divided the task success rate into two groups: those who performed the task (A) and those who did not (B). As a result, Group A’s success rate increased by about 44% compared to before seeing the cute photo, but Group B’s success rate only increased by 12%.

by unknown

-.Isn’t writing only what I want to write ultimately a reflection of the selfish desires that the author mentioned? In the end, I have to constantly think about what kind of stories people want to hear through me, how I can help them in their lives, what value I can provide through my writing, what I can make people feel, etc.

by Soolog Blogger

-.Be wise, drink some wine, let go of distant hopes, life is short.

by Quintus Horace Flaccus

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-.Mom beat the beat with a salad spoon. Not long ago he was writhing in his mother’s arms, nuzzling his soft, flat chest, smelling food, and the night was passing somewhere among the branches. It felt like sucking up a coin.

Nothing came to him directly. Nothing happened overtly. The things that changed him were vague and cautious, leading him to live a strangely unwieldy and improbable life. The death was not thorough. Death had no clear boundaries. It meowed and disappeared forever, leaving behind all love and responsibility.

by Joey Williams